Friendship with therapist after therapy ends | The PsychCafe
If a therapist suddenly wants to terminate with a client, the client's first question is They get to have one experience of a good, clean relationship ending in life; Since there isn't much written on the topic, the termination series pops up early came to work on your stuff, and now someone else's stuff is getting in the way. The therapist-client relationship is an intimate one and yet we often end them My last therapist always told me that if I was considering ending our sessions, we After what I felt was an unprofessional response to a traumatic life event, . reasons for terminating therapy, and both part ways the better for it. Some might go so far as to say that treatment doesn't actually end after you This way of thinking is intended to be protective of clients and can help The issue here is whether or not the therapist/client relationship truly lasts in perpetuity.
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I think I lied to avoid hurting her feelings or causing conflict. We leave our therapists for all sorts of reasons: I never went back. When I left my own therapist, my priority was finding a new source of help and healing to get through trauma.
His feelings were not just irrelevant to me — they were completely off my radar. Is it really the job of the patient to offer tips on how the therapist can improve their approach? Even if the patient still decides to leave, they will do so with more insight into themselves and with an open door to return. Is it really the job of the patient to offer tips and tricks on how the therapist can improve their approach, particularly if the patient is already in a vulnerable or wounded state?
Therapists who expect everyone to be experts at the therapeutic process are going to miss or dismiss the patients who need therapy the most.
You discover that you need someone with those highly specialized qualifications. If the client is still a client even after all those years of no contact, is that a conflict of interest and a prohibited dual relationship? If it is an issue of power, who is in the position of power? Is power in any relationship always static, or is it variable and subject to change based on the circumstances? Dual or Sequential Relationship When a therapist and client enter into a relationship that is outside of or in addition to the therapeutic relationship, it is generally referred to as a dual relationship.
Dual relationships are discouraged by most professional organizations. However, not all experts in the field believe that all dual relationships are necessarily harmful. It would depend on the context.
However, when a therapist and long past patient enter into a relationship separate from the therapeutic one, is that actually a dual relationship? Would it be more accurate to call it a sequential or serial relationship? Is there a difference?
If one believes that our patients grow mature and sometimes surpass us in knowledge, wisdom, and power, then it is a significant difference. Of course, of all the dual or sequential relationships that are potentially possible with patients and former patients, when the issue of sex comes up, most all therapists of all disciplines react forcefully.
Having sex with a current patient or even a recently discharged patient is not only unethical—it is illegal. It is truly a betrayal of the trust the patient places in us.
Friendship with therapist after therapy ends | The PsychCafe
However, over time as in yearscan that change in some very special circumstances to allow exceptions to the rule? If a therapist and former patient meet some 10 or 15 years after the last therapeutic session and develop a personal relationship, get married, and have children, can we say that an ethical violation or a crime has been committed? Washington State is one exception.
However, assuming the former client does not file any complaint, how enforceable would such laws be?
For example, what if the former therapist and patient got married, were in a committed relationship, and had children? Would or should an ethics committee have the authority to interfere with a marriage or union among consenting adults? What about our belief in the right to free association?
What is the rationale for the prohibition against sex with patients?
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Many believe it is the power differential. I woke up the next morning feeling mighty low, and the feeling lasted for the rest of the week. By the time the weekend rolled around I was feeling much better, and had resigned myself to the fact that things are just the way they are, and there's nothing I can do about it. I knew, though, that my relationship with my T would never be the same, and I was almost sure that I'd terminate soon. But I wanted to see her another time or two so that we could make sure to end on a good note.
I saw her yesterday, and had a chance to say most of what I wanted to say to her. She asked me what I had taken away from the experience.
I told her I didn't understand the question. She said, "Well, for example - and as the therapist this is just something I have to deal with - I felt like you were only thinking of yourself and YOUR feelings when we talked last week, and that made me think, 'this is the reason I don't like people.
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As the day passed I realized what a strange comment it was - again, more like something you'd say to a friend than a therapy client. I think it was at that point I knew for certain that our relationship as therapist and client was completely and forever over. There's no way she's going to be able to keep her SELF out of therapy, and there's no way that I'm going to be able to avoid worrying that I'm going to hurt her feelings by saying the wrong thing.
Wanna know the really cool part? I felt nothing but relief from that realization. This morning I sent my T an email explaining that yesterday's visit with her would be my last one. I told her again how much I appreciate everything she's done for me. I let her know that I appreciate the way she tried to take control of the situation once she saw that it was out of control. And I hoped to see her again sometime after July Now I'm here, wondering if I've done the right thing, yet pretty sure that I have.
I made an appointment with a new T today. I wasn't real impressed with her style over the phone, but I'll give her try.